How do you tell the people you're talking to on OLD that you started seeing someone, but want to save their number in case it doesn't work out?

>but if some guy thinks he can be disrespectful enough to tell me this and that I'll stick around and be all "cool, that's totally fine." he is mistaken.

Well I'm trying to see how to go about it in a better way. Everyone on OLD is talking to multiple people until they decide to disconnect from the others. I'm looking to put OLD on pause to be honest and respectful to the person I'm seeing, but I don't think I'm obligated to throw away phone numbers in the first few weeks.

>He's testing my boundaries to see how badly he can treat me and still get away with it. My job is to shut it down then and there or I'm opening myself up to terrible treatment as long as I'm dealing with him (if he "un-backburners" me). People will test to see how much they can get away with. How much we're willing to tolerate is up to us. Me, I prefer mutual respect. ymmv.

I see your point of view, but I think it only makes sense depending on how someone phrases things. I want to tell them that I'm not the type of person to juggle women and things just got started before (the person I'm telling this to) had a chance to meet in person. Clearly that's not the best way to put it, but at least it demonstrates that I'm forthright and not a player.

Would you suggest another way to tell them that I'm not around for a few weeks? (the result of this being that in a few weeks this has fizzled out and I'm available again, or if it's still going I can just say that I'm not available more directly)

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