How do you treat an ugly woman in comparison to a pretty woman?

In the earlier stages of getting to know a woman, I’m more openly friendly and more generous with favors to less attractive female acquaintances. This is the way I’d prefer to behave with everyone. If I behave the same way with pretty female acquaintances, some will think I’m hitting on them and become standoffish or snobbish. Sometimes this is understandable, but it’s really annoying. I often avoid speaking to pretty women who I don’t know well because I worry that they might consider me a creep. If a woman is below or above a certain level of attractiveness, I’ll usually treat her in a neutral manner because I don’t think it’ll go anywhere other than friendship. This means my enthusiasm remains normal, not unfriendly.

Once we’ve established that we’re cool, my behavior becomes more like other men and women. Although I remain friendly with less attractive women, I’m more likely to be flirty and offer 1-on-1 invites to average and pretty women I find friendly and attractive (but not extremely attractive) because I like and believe in the chance of it going somewhere else. If a woman is extremely attractive, I’ll avoid flirting with her unless she’s very friendly to me first, and even then I might not try. I’m inclined to put up with more annoying behavior from pretty women, but if she’s unkind to less fortunate people I will start to resent her in the way that some people resent the rich. I’m more eager to invest in interactions with women that I find attractive than I am with other women or men, but I try not to let this show in person. If a less attractive woman, an extremely attractive woman or a man is fun to be around and they show interest in hanging out, I’ll take them up on it, but it will require more investment from them than a woman I find attractive and believably interested.

Just to be clear, no one should think that this behavior is unique to men.

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