How would I know if an INTJ really likes me (as a friend) or if he pities me?

-If I didn't like you I wouldn't talk to you

-I wouldn't have a relationship out of pity, that's INFJ behavior.

-I can be friends with a Shiite and a Sunni; they don't have to get along or "fit in". Who and what a person are, are pretty insignificant to me. I either like you or I don't.

Stop being so hard on yourself. As you said you're going thru a rough transition. Your friend doesn't care what your career is or where you are. YOU are what you bring to the table. I think it's difficult for some to understand how many people didn't make it past round 1 of friendship until they accepted a new friend in their life.

Don't believe that bs rumor that INTJ's need to be stimulated intellectually in conversations. We live in the information age and if someone can't find a place to challenge themselves intellectually online, then they're probably a dumbass anyways lol. Your friend just wants someone to communicate with.

Once you figure out how you're going to get out of this rough transition. Tell your INTJ friend what you have planned and they'd be delighted to give you their thoughts on it. If you can't think of a plan they'd also be delighted to make a plan for you. However they are probably not the best choice to lean on when you need emotional support.

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