How would you interpret your SO watching porn after turning you down for sex?

Thank you for input. I just got finished running off most of my doubt and fear on the treadmill and came to pretty much the same conclusion you did. I realize the porn thing is something I just need to get over. It's a constant struggle; but, I am trying.

In his defense, he wasn't inconsiderate. That perception was entirely my fault. He saves his surfing for after I've gone to bed or before I get up - never when I can see it. I just got into the habit of checking his history a long time ago when I suspected him of cheating. Truth be told: I need to stop that, too. He is entitled to his privacy - and even his porn. I need to learn to trust what he says when he tells me he loves me and is committed to working on things, especially when he backs that up with action. I need to develop enough security to not feel threatened by the porn. ...and I certainly need to stop reacting to it immediately. Giving myself time to digest it always leads me to a more comfortable point of view.

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