I'm also in NYC, but in my late 30s. You are gorgeous, and trust me, you are not the only "total package" woman in her 20s and 30s I know in NYC who experiences what you have. I actually know more single women than paired up, and seems like the more they have everything together, the harder it becomes for them. It does not help that I personally have been approached by unavailable men who are very willing to cheat, or meeting coupled men who are actively looking to "see what's our there." Obviously if you have glaring issues that cime in between you and long-term love them work on them, but don't take all this so personally. We live in unique demographic.