Sorry if I got it wrong. You seem you don't care if he's miserable in his life, as long as your marriage is fine

No, I was just keeping it short. I cared, but he's not in that job now. He's in one he likes more after the second unemployment. That job was horrid but my point was, he wasn't bringing up leaving all that time etc. We had a good period but he did face other stresses that compiled. However, those stresses seemed to bring him to me, not away like the financial ones.

I have said sorry for how I acted when he was unemployed and he said I was better the 2nd time. I'm trying to work on my nagging overall but I do sometimes fuss about his spending habits. I'm trying to do so respectfully but I can't pretend I'm perfect. Maybe I did drive him away.