I get what you’re saying. Swing dancing in general was his idea, we met swing dancing, so I wasn’t going to go to that alone. We were supposed to go Thursday night but I had to work late so we scheduled it for Saturday instead.

I guess I could talk to him more about things before I schedule them. It’s just frustrating when I would go to that BBQ by myself if that’s what I had planned on doing, but he seemed lukewarm on going all of a sudden yesterday. Then he fell asleep, preventing any actual conversation on if we were going together. It seems like it would have been pretty passive aggressive to just leave and go without him.

More than that, I want to feel like he’s excited to do things together. It’s just tough because I didn’t get married though to spend my life alone. I didn’t get married to spend my Halloween with my friends only. I got married to have a partner to do things with.