Husband fantasizes about my daughter

Let's be real: your #1 priority is to protect your child, not your marriage. Fuck counseling, and fuck wondering if your daughter is causing/manipulating the situation. She is THIRTEEN. He is a full fledged ADULT. Normal grown people know to not get tangled sexually with kids, whether those kids "started it" or not. Don't wait to save money. Get out now. Stay with friends, stay with family, but get out. Now. In the time it takes you to save money, he could assault your daughter. Protect her, and protect the other children in this home.

When I was 13, I spent the night at my sister's house. I slept on the couch downstairs. Her 32 year old husband came down to "get some water" and "tuck" me in. He gave me what I thought was an innocent peck on the cheek goodnight. When I went to peck his cheek, he turned his head, shoved his tongue in my mouth, and grabbed my breasts and crotch over my pajamas. I shoved him away, started crying, and screamed for my sister. When she got downstairs, I told her what happened, and asked for the phone to call my Mom. He kept saying "NONONO! You misunderstand what happened!" MY own sister offered me TWENTY whole dollars to not tell my Mom. I told her something along the lines of 'Go fuck yourself'. She kept trying to bribe me with various things, but I wasn't having it.

Longish story short, she stayed with that man for like a year before my Mom and I found enough evidence for her to admit he was a pedophile and leave (apparently the fact that he liked to fuck my sister with their infant son in the same bed wasn't enough of a sign). He went on to do very VERY bad things to his next wife's child and a bunch of her friends at a sleepover, and he's in an Arizona prison for the next 400+ years.

All that, to say this: I have ZERO relationship with my sister. I love her, but I don't like her, and I want nothing to do with her (and she is my only sibling). She didn't protect me. She tried to bribe me to not say anything. Her piece of shit man was more important than her flesh and blood. And she has no idea why I want nothing to do with her. I'm in my 40’s now, and I've long since been over what her pedo husband did. But I've NEVER gotten the betrayal my my sister.

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