Husband lost virginity to bully

I cringe when he tries to kiss me, sex is seldom and he can tell I'm not interested. It makes me physically ill that he could be sexually attracted to someone like her. I feel like if she contacted him he would be more than happy to go back to her because he's never turned her down before.

If you felt like this before marrying your husband...why did you marry him? You did both yourself and him a disservice, especially if your never communicated this to him (and he just feels like his wife is repulsed by him constantly - pretty awful). And you should absolutely end things so he can find someone who actually loves him, and doesn’t cringe when he tries to kiss them.

If this is a recent feeling, I would guess it’s a manifestation of other issues, and strongly urge you to explore therapy and/or marriage counseling.

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