Husband(M25) expects me(F24) to cook all of his meals & I don't like that

He says its a waste of money but if I'm using my own money for it then why is it a big deal? He wants home cooked meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner and i hate cooking but still at least try to do that too

First, they're on completely different pages about how they can spend their personal money. It's not really clear how much OP actually makes, and what she spends it on... take-up and cleaners aren't cheap.

Secondly, expecting home-cooked meal in the morning, at mid-day AND for dinner is clearly not the norm for most people. OP isn't a SAHP, she's working part-time.

m. He tells me i cant keep using my depression as an excuse but i mean..it kinda is. Not always, just some days I just feel dead inside and he doesnt understand it.

And apperently, OP's husband is clearly not listening to her. She says she feels "dead" inside, she's overwhelmed.... so how is it helpful if he just says she can't use her mental health issues as an "excuse"? She was suicidal two years ago. Instead, he should encourage her to get more therapy, and probably suggest couple's counseling.

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