Unfortunately you sound like a narcissist. It's all well and fine if you set high standards for yourself but you're insanely demeaning towards your husband. You know what they say right? If you want something done your way it's best to do it yourself. Nothing worse than having a spouse who critiques everything you do. It doesn't make you their spouse, it makes you their annoying parent. If you do things better than your husband and can't stand the thought of things being done beneath your standards you have two choices to make. You can either do it yourself or accept a lower standard.

I wish I had more advice but your entire dynamic is insanely toxic. Nothing he could possibly do would ever be enough. He could check every box you have today and you'd have a new list waiting for him tomorrow. There's absolutely no winning with people who are so self involved. My advice, divorce and go find yourself the perfect man.