I'm reading this post going: "Hmm, yeah that doesn't sound good, but could be fixed with some communication and ground settings and -"

Then he called me a stupid c*nt.

Hold on, back the fuck up, call the trains back to the platform, reroll that joint; What the fuck!? So, to get this straight, on top of the financial overtrampling, he also verbally abuses you? This is heading off to a great start..

Oh, wait. It gets worse. He doesn't have a job, so he is using your money without your consent, which is driving you to take an additional job because you believe that you have to stand for this bullshit? Fuck no. First off, you need to actively freeze your joint account and switch it over to your name. If he is abusing your shared account, that YOU alone contributes too, you need to take drastic measures here or he will ruin you completely financially. Block his access to it. Then, you need to seriously consider the fact that you are married to someone who disrespects you enough to steal your money, ignore you and call you a stupid cunt. This is insane.