Husband takes no accountability for his actions or words, claims he forgets every agreement we’ve ever made, and defends his crap behavior to the death.

  1. It wasn’t couples counseling at first; it was solo sessions for myself that my counselor morphed into couples’ counseling because she felt we could both benefit. Not sure if that context really matters in the grand scheme of things.

I love him. My family and friends love him. He cares for me and has stuck with me since becoming too disabled to function. We’ve been through so much horrible shit together, and he’s been nothing less than supportive Things are fantastic until he realizes I’m upset with him, then the walls come up and he gets ultra defensive and passive-aggressive, but denies he’s doing either of those things.

And to be honest, I don’t know. I’m scared that I’m holding out false hope and that I’m asking for more than he’s capable of. I just want some respect and honesty and more effort from him when we have issues. I don’t know what the breaking point is or will be. Either way, I can’t get away because if need be because he pays the bills and I have no transportation or anybody who is able to help me if things fall apart.

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