Husband and I vehemently disagree on spanking...am I in the wrong here?

I know I'm going to get hate for this, but I'm just being honest. If you're not comfortable with spanking then don't thats totally fine and your not wrong, but if spanking is working with your kids, and there is no abuse or trauma then I don't see the problem with your husband continuing. TBH my kid was spanked when he was young and he is the sweetest most chill 9yo (and yes my husband and I were also spanked and no long lasting trauma over here). If spanking is done correctly and not out of anger or excessively it isn't traumatic. My son always got 2 warnings before he was spanked, 1st warning 'hey don't do that thats bad (explain)', 2nd warning 'Hey, you've already been told no (with further explanation)' 3rd warning came with a spanking. My son is now at a point where when he gets to 2nd warnings he actually apologizes and explains himself ("oh, sorry I forgot" or "sorry mommy its just that..."). He's at point where he hasn't gotten a spanking in a year and probaby will no longer get spanked.

I gues my only advise is to bring up your discomfort (which is totally valid) with your husband and try working on a system that works for both of you, like the 2 warnings with lots of explaining, and then the 3rd being a spanking.

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