Your husband is 100% in the wrong. Depending on how adamant he is, might be time to consider divorce.

But it’s worth it to peer into influencing variables. And this is by no means an attempt to shift blame- but this is kinda potentially similar to something I have experienced in past relationships.

Since you’ve taken your new shape, how has bedroom life been? Do either of you engage in anything sensual or sexual in comparable frequency to how you two used to? Do you find yourself feeling a little insecure and “unsexy”? Have both of your sex drives seem to have taken a nose dive in the last two years? Does he seem agitated and lacking patience towards you? Has he been distant?

Sex is super important to some people, more so than others. Not saying he has any merit to be talking or acting like this around you, but is touch/sex one of his love languages? Does he need it to feel validated? Because if a dead bedroom type scenario has been brewing and sprouting, I know I would be at my wits end. And perhaps if this is the central reason why, he knows that one thing will probably fix it but he can’t take it any longer.

Massive speculation on my part, and if I’m wrong on the broad strokes, then completely disregard my comment. Just jotting my thoughts down on how to even pick apart such a situation with my experiences as the only context.