I think i have lost myself completely. I am missing my older self.

This should to x-post to askreditt,

Anyways let me try to give you some advice when i felt the same way when i studied abroad and went through exactly what you are going through.

I guess you are in your 20's mostly first time living away from native cultural and social environment . This always makes me anxious it makes you uncomfortable because your mind is still learning the new culture, social rules and survival ideas. This is a steep learning curve, there were times i have had days i just got back home a cried to sleep because my confidence was truly shaken because things that i did subconsciously suddenly needed a lot more thought in every aspect, it is stressful and makes people anxious and then depressed. But give it time you will feel better, adaptation takes time, forgive your failures and more importantly reward your success.

Do not be afraid to fail. You miss every shoot you dont take. It does not mean take every shoot without effort. But give your effort and make sure you learn from failure and success. Something you will understand overtime, success does not actually mean your effort worked neither does failure mean your effort did not work. Life is funny that way and it can suprise you when you least expect it.

Dont isolate yourself, yes have zero tolerance to that, even if you feel anxious towards strangers. I used to sit in the park and draw or sometimes just relax but make a habit of being close to people even in a public place with strangers. Find a group online or in your city who have similiar hobbies or interest try communicating and meeting them. Meet as many people as possible, good chance is you will meet a few idiots but you will also find like minded people who you will cherish.

Do not compare with other people this is a horrible habit. Your life is unique just like everyone elses, so be conscious not to get jealous because comparison usually leads to jealousy and that leads to greed both are horrible habits things to develop.

Love life, make mistakes and set your goals and remind yourself what you need to achieve.

If you have anxiety over a period of time meet a shrink, it could be treated with cognitive skill training or some mild medication.

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