That’s certainly not how you have to explained it, certainly not how you have come across and not once do you actually say that you are to blame and responsible? In fact throughout your whole post you said 5 easily identifiable different blatant things that you are clearly blaming your mum for and they are;
1) I think I’ve been neglected
2) but at this point, I just hate her for making me so dependent on her.
3) I was never taught how to do anything
4) How on earth do I confront her on how neglected I feel
5) so she neglected me even more to deal with him.
There are other things that you said that could be considered blaming her but the 5 above are you blatantly blaming her
When reading through your whole post to look for anything blatant where you take any kind of responsibility or blame there is nothing that stands out, there is also nothing that even spuriously could be considered you taking responsibility or blame so forgive me for not believing your reply to me saying that you actually do believe that you are at fault. Maybe just have a think about that, you do however clearly ask for help in trying to make changes that I can’t deny.
Anyway what is done is done. My initial reply was basically to make you think how you sound and that you need to make the changes and that nobody else can do that for you and to be fair you do admit to being lazy in your original post.
Now my joking and taking the absolute per out of you in my original post about you needing to be self sufficient and you need to do things for yourself and that you can learn from YouTube, that was a serious suggestion from me and a serious piece of advice as you will be surprised what how to videos are on there. You could probably find a video to fix a World War One tank, it wouldn’t surprise me. So give that a go in your spare time.
What I think would be really of benefit for you and a positive thing would be for you to just say to your mum after dinner, “I’ll do the dishes and wash them up” and go over to the sink. Then say to your mum something like “you know what mum I think this is the first ever time that I have done the dishes! How much water shall I fill the sink with? And how hot does the water need to be? ‘Hot hot’ or just hot or warm? And how much washing up liquid “
You get the idea OP.basically you - take some of the chores off of your mum and give her a break - when doing them just ask her how does she do that particular chore and the best way to do it and has she any tips
Not only do you get to learn from the best teacher but you also get to spend some time with her even if it is over chores, you see the effort she put in for you over the years and also you clearly have a good degree of resentment for her in certain aspects namely these aspects and by her teaching you I am confident that any such resentment will disappear in no time and you will become closer all because of some dirty dishes and dirty clothes and maybe it will be the first time that she says to you that you are a really good child like she used to do but this time that praise will actually mean something and more to you for doing something rather than it being a hollow thing like you always felt