I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looks

It can be.

How do you act among your close friends and family?

That’s really the key. Who you are is who you are. Your family has no choice in knowing you so you can be who you are and not be shunned. Your friends like you or they wouldn’t be your friends. Who you are with them is generally who you are as a person.

Treat people how you do your friends. Just because a woman is insanely attractive doesn’t mean she is some alien life form who demands extraordinary acts from people. Humanize. We are all humans. Treat others as people and the charisma will flow naturally.

The hottest women I have dated have really been some of the loneliest people I have met. They always feel like everyone wants to put them on a pedestal and forget they like to burp, fart and shit too. They feel as if people only want to and try to communicate with them to get in their pants. The best analogy I can think of is like being surrounded by flies all day. You swat them away but they all circle around trying to land on you for their own personal enjoyment.

Crack jokes and treat her like her family does. Her family doesn’t see her as some unattainable person to communicate with. Feed her pizza not lobster and steak. If she cries, sympathize but don’t patronize. When she has a goofy laugh, poke a little fun at her. Make her know that you aren’t looking to bag a trophy.

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