Man here, there's no doubt those guys are complete insecure assholes. But they're insecure - as society progresses, they feel such discomfort (equlity=oppression to the group on top) that they project their shame-filled toxic denial onto women.

I will say that whenever I lurk or heavily browse this sub, I usually leave it in a worse mood and feeling bad about myself for my gender. Now, as much as that sucks for me, this is a women's subreddit for women's issues, so it's overall irrelevant.

In such a polarizing, stressful society, it's easy to feel incredibly defensive about something that, while unfair to women, also feels unfair to men. Men are damaged by patriarchal standards to a much smaller degree than women, but we are both forced into roles by society. It's easy to think that women think every man is a rapist, or a misogynistic pig just from reading some vents on this sub. They're vents, but men with lots of insecurity and free time will be inclined to scream their defense.

It feels really selfish and oblivious to say this, but I think it's really worth exploring that white men need comfort/reassurance during this rocky time in social progress. Black people, women, etc. are the oppressed who still justifiably work to better their position, but white men can and do take it as a personal attack. My self-loathing and anxiety are very individual to me, but that leads to my shame telling me that I'm a disgusting plight on humankind for being born as a straight white affluent male.