Mine ask me how I'm doing, it doesn't make me any less tired to listen to circular issues and circular drama that is repeating for 10-15 years now. I hope they get to break their vicious cycles but I finally decided I'm not gonna be there for it.

Don't mind listening to people who genuinely get into problems and then struggle with them, then fix them or get hurt bad and move on. The people who work and try are usually not complaining on a loop though and can see the good parts too. But yeah, I have also lost my energy and willpower over constant bummers. They're not better, I'm not better when I'm around them. If they complain often enough, you'll even be stressed when they're being nice because you're aware this can turn into a self-pity fest any second.

You end up dreading having to talk to them, then feeling like you're an asshole for it.