If you haven't told your SO, you're a coward

I just told my SO. She's in her room right now. I don't know how exactly she's going to take it. Like most people on there, I never met anyone but spent a week talking to a woman online before I quit the site. Now, she knows everything. She already knew a bit from a fb thing when the woman tried to friend me. You are correct in my opinion, the shock and embarrassment we will recieve is nothing like what they will get if they find out from someone else. It's the right thing to do, even if you feel like you didn't mean anything. I disagree with you though. I wrote some pretty stupid junk on my profile (I only know this because I found in the dumps what it said), but I never intended to meet anyone. In fact the woman I talked to was living nearly a thousand miles from me. Point is, being on there was betraying my wife's trust, and with the reality of the hack, she deserves to know. But let's not get all witchhuntish here. Everyone does things in their personal life they regret, we don't have to divulge everything to everyone. We make mistakes and we learn. IT said as much in their little manifesto, even IT didn't claim all the people on there deserved to be strung up. I'm accepting the fall out as it comes. I have a long way to fall both personally and professionally. This will make me a compelte hypocrite in the eyes of many who know me. But being on AM meant I was a hypocrite, so I'm going to use this situation, the worst situation I can ever recall being involved in, for the only positive I can see. Going to try and make me a better person. I hate the damn IT, but they nailed what would happen to me. I do however deserve they too should be caught and punished. Not so much tit for tat, but this whole mess has also taught me there is a privacy aspect to our lives that others do not have the right to know. This is between my wife and I. IT made that confession happen to her, but they never had the right to make it happen between HER and her friends, or ME and my COWORKERS. What they did was criminal. What I did was disgusting and hurtful.

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