My wife (gf at the time) was lazy, overweight, and a habitual liar. But she promised me she was gonna change, lose weight - start dieting and working out, finish high school, be a perfect housewife (which wed discussed and I wanted at the time). She said she was gonna get some nice lingerie and a Brazilian wax for our wedding/honeymoon.

None of it ever happened. Even 10 years later. Not only that, but she actually got worse after we got married. Shed gotten what she wanted, I was now officially trapped, and she didnt have to try anymore. She still put on an extra 50 pounds after that.

I was working full time, she was staying home and playing video games and watching tv/movies all day. Sex dried up ( been at least 2 years now) she wouldnt clean or cook.

I had tried to leave her we got married but she started crying and I felt bad. Combined with my low self esteem and thinking I couldn't do any better, plus religious family, I went ahead with it and hoped for the best. Still regret it to this day. I should have broken up with her, she would have long gotten over it by now. Instead I'm gonna probably end up divorcing and hurting her more now.

Look at her now. That's who she is. Don't get married to a version you hope she will become. It won't happen. I sincerely hope you can learn from mine and others mistakes. But if you are like me, you gotta learn some things the hard way. I wish you all the best