"That's partly why it's so difficult to talk about men being raped or assaulted - other men just don't take it seriously because - according to the rules - he 'scored' and should be happy."
It is highly unusual for a male to be raped by a woman. And only in this highly uncommon situation would it be considered "a score" by other males.
Males rape. Males rape women. Males rape other males. Almost all cases of a male being raped: they are raped by another male. That, they do not consider "a score."
"Additionally, it's just a human failing that is hardly exclusive to men -..." Eh. Sounds like you are trying to NAMALT rather than name the problem and address the issue head on.