If you have opened your relationship and now you get no action how do you deal with it?

Dating outside the base relationship, I feel I have to hide my nm status and I get somewhere. Ive had tons of conversations with my wife and she agrees. If anything happens more than once I will tell them but for general one night stands I have no more obligation to them then they do to me to be honest and Im sure half of them arent at least.

I get that kinda goes against the grain of informing people thats popular here but I dont actually feel bad about it. Unless the girl directly asks me in the way where she wants to know how far the relationship will go, I wont mention it and wife is ok.

Dating together is much more successful outside of those interactions. But I just gave up altogether trying to find a girl who is okay with dating while im married. Its just not common enough unless we have a previous friendship - in which case the rules inside my marriage are drastically different. Not off the table per se but a lot more open communication needed, and those situations are rare to begin with.

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