I did feel sympathy and I am extremely empathetic person, until he decided to be extremely cruel to me and tell me i was "nothing to him" and that I am not "good enough for him" Then I lost all sympathy.

When we broke up, he went on a downward spiral, and I was there to pick up the pieces so he doesn't endanger his life again. I said I was proud of him for turning that around and gave him validation, in spite of some of the cruel and abusive shit he did to me.

He could have at least thanked me for that, he doesn't deserve to "be in a better place" after the cruelty he inflicted on me. I am not happy for him nor should I be.

I wasted enough empathy on someone that truly did not deserve it. Weirdly, therapy made his behavior worse towards me .... but "better" for the new person, so he didn't apply those lessons to me and is not acting in any sort of ethical way.