Actually, I've noticed between myself and the other aspie females I know that we also have an interestingly higher likeliness of not giving a fuck about social norms and being comfortable going after the guys we pick to obsess over (which for me has pretty much never been anyone that was considered conventionally desirable). Several of the aspie women I know are comfortable blatantly and bluntly hitting on guys that interest them. The includes things like my husband's ex crawling into his lap and announcing that he was hers when they got together, me being the pursuer in our relationship, and watching an aspie girl at a meetup group tell a guy flat out that she was 31 and he seemed young and cute and then completely fixating her attention on him the entire event. We also have anxiety, so we might quietly obsess about someone from the shadows for years, which I've certainly also done. We're also a bit more vulnerable to all the millions of asshole guys out there who pretend to be interested in a relationship and then leave as soon as they get the sex they were actually after since we have a harder time recognizing their motives than NT girls. I've been drugged and raped. A female aspie friend of mine has been in a couple of abusive relationships because she didn't understand that those weren't normal relationship dynamics. It's generally easier for all women to attract the attention of men than the other way around, but it's a lot harder to sort through all the interest to understand who is actually really interested in us. It's not all roses and sunsets for any of us, male or female, and I don't think your skewed perception is doing a service to anyone.