I'm 15 and new to EVERYTHING

I feel like a really good way to tell if you’re ready to explore sexually is your comfort level. I am 20 now but it took me 19 years of my life to get comfortable with a person touching me in any regard. I remember my sophomore year of high school one of my friends sat his head in my lap... it was a very innocent gesture too- because my thighs were soft and “a good pillow”. I immediately started crying, and felt so bad because I know he didn’t mean anything by it. Even my longterm boyfriend for awhile I got uncomfortable when he touched me in certain places (my hips, waist, etc.). I would consider myself a pretty sexually interested kid as I started masturbating at 13. I think I felt safe being in control over my body. But eventually I learned that you can begin to explore your sexuality with yourself first. Learn what makes you comfortable. I mean 15 is REALLY young to engage in sexual activities (that’s just my personal opinion) but only do what makes you feel comfortable. If the topic of sex around your boyfriend AT ALL makes you uncomfortable... you are not ready. And you have to tell him that. You truly have to explain that you just want to wait. If he’s a decent person he’ll stay. Take time for yourself, educate yourself on it. And not just like “watching porn”, truly educate yourself. I am very guilty of googling embarrassing questions about sex until I figured things out. Also my mom never gave me “the talk”...

My best friend for a long time kind of went off the rails when she turned 14. She had a boyfriend and gave him head... and he told her he loved her or WHATEVER. At the time I was disgusted as I viewed us all as children. And the guy she was with... was older... Remember to enjoy your childhood and your lack of responsibilities. If your boyfriend is coercing you to engage in sexual activities... he may not be the right one for you. If a guy truly values immediately wanting sex in a relationship (at your age)... then something tells me he’s less interested in an actual commitment. Be careful... and YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO.

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