I'm 16 and want to leave my house

I little practical rather than legal advice:

Keep a journal, once a day write about the strong feelings your having and how the atmosphere is impacting you. Try and include a paragraph from her perspective. Avoid derogatory terms. You'll notice that things will improve in both her attitude towards you and yours to her.

Avoid confrontation, you're both raw so try and force being civil when together, but get out of the house more to give her space to analyse her own feelings behaviour. I would recommend getting a job you can do around your future studies. Saved the money and avoid wasting time and money on necessary expenditure like intoxication (perceived or actual abuses are kindling to unhealthy habits that stick around farrrr to long).

Start keeping a budget, you'll need that when you get your own place. Create a 'when I get my own place' budget. How much is rent? Council tax? Water/gas/electric? Furniture costs? Weekly food spend? Phone/Internet? Clothing? Fun fund? National insurance? Tax? Pension contributions? Ask a trusted adult to help you. Debt hangs around, buggering up your credit score hangs around long after debt is paid.

Give the whole thing a bit of time. When the atmosphere has calmed it might be a good idea to reference the journal and pick out the useful articulate parts to relay the impact of the fall out of the event. This might help you both navigate this ick for the future when you get your a levels and uni results.

All of the above will take a little time but you have time, living cheaply even in a hostile environment for the next few short busy years will be infinitely easier than going solo no matter how romantic the prospect of self sufficiency is. Prioritising your education now will make your adult life much more full of possibilities/options.

Or you could do what I did in yourself exact situation with parental conflict: left at 16 with no real appreciation of the graft involved (I'd scraped by Cs at GCSE. Sofa surfed for a bit (technically homeless). Gave up on idea of a levels and degree which I needed to get into my field of work. Fluncted college in part due to weed & beer as escape from the resentments I let escalate). Moved into a "cheap" bedsit, couldn't afford to eat, somehow managed to get the lowest paid full time job in my field, had to supplement income with waitressing and bar work in the evenings. At 18 I was given a credit card, big mistake, groceries and clothing required for office, restaurant and bar work went on the credit card. Maxed that bad boi out. At this point I had no contact with family and no time for friends, I was incredibly lonely,overworked and stressed and still lacking the essentials required for a reasonable standard of life. Missed repayments. Moves into a box room in a shared house declared backrupt at 22. Yadda Yadda Yadda. It was nearly 10years to sort all of that out. Its not all doom and gloom though at 40 I'm living in my own home with my own family and good career prospects by busting my non existing balls working and studying to this day. I'm happy now but that shit was hard and dark at times. I was a clever student and could have done a levels and uni and bypassed at lot of that grind, but the abuse I had as a child forced my hand.

If there is anyway you can stick it out at home or move in with a grandparent or aunty/uncle I'd recommend that.

Good luck with your future, go easy on yourself, be a friend to present-you and future-you. It seems like all these exams happen at the worst times for families. You are a teen still, you've hormones and your brain is changing shape, adulthood is just around the corner. Your mum, if old enough to have a teen is probably hormonal too (TheChange) and is probably apprehensive about the future, empty nest syndrome is a thing. No matter how brave we are or seem to be, change is unsettling and the future can be scary.

It will be ok, don't do anything rash until you've explored your options thoroughly.

Take care of yourself young adult, adulting is a minefield best navigated with the support of a troop....

... Or you could join the Navy like I nearly did :)

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