I'm [25F] feeling discouraged with my bf's [23M] slower pace in life

You probably should. If you are feeling this way I don't think you are ready to be in a relationship with someone who isn't sailing smoothly and that's fine if that's where you are right now, but it's not okay to sit on a relationship waiting to find the greener grass.

You don't sound very confused about your feelings about your boyfriend. I find the way you wrote about him disturbing and I Actually admire the guy for working his ass off but here's the thing, if this is the way you feel it doesn't matter how wrong I or anyone else thinks you are because at the end of the day you have to prioritize your happiness.

I can tell you that you can't fix this guys problems, but he's still the vibrant guy you first met. He's just beaten down by life. He's probably not always on point because he's exhausted all the time, and maybe he values those nights with his friends at work enough to choose them over more sleep.

If all you are going to do is look down on this guy, he deserves better and you aren't doing yourself any favors either.

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