Perhaps my approach was a little too subtle the first time. I figured that maybe she didn't know I was upset by this which is why I asked her "Why are we having this problem?". I guess I thought she would make a change herself, but you're right, I shouldn't consider this her problem. It's OUR problem. I could be more proactive in getting us where I want us to be.

The biggest hurdle with that though is that we both still live at home right now. It's hard to try to get together to go ride bikes or cook something every night because she gets home late, and we don't really have the space at home to do these things.

I've thought about the good it might do for our situation if we lived together and could do these things together. But that just puts me in a whole different situation where I don't want to commit to a whole HOUSE and hope that this gets better.

Not sure how much we can do while we live at home..should have included that in the post. Thoughts?