I'm [26/f] starting to see a lack of empathy in my boyfriend [33/m] especially after this weekend

Since your post is only one side of the story, it's hard to say whether your boyfriend truly has a lack of empathy and is acting like a jerk or not. There are, however, several items in your post that make me think this could be at least partly a "you" problem as much as/more than a "him" problem.

First, this

If you’re a teacher, you know that teaching is stressful and there’s a reason we have built in holidays. We need breaks.

Yes, teaching is stressful. But so are hundreds of other careers. And presumably doctors, nurses, lawyers, etc. are in far more high-stress situations than teachers, and work not only year round, but often >40 hour weeks. Teachers don't get long breaks because their jobs are so stressful. Teachers get long breaks because our educations system developed at a time when students needed the summer months off to work on family farms. School years are 180 days to allow students time off, and families time to be together. Not because teaching is such a high-stress position that teachers couldn't possibly be expected to do it year round.

This shows me that you're taking a victim's role in all this. I get a very woe-is-me vibe, that you have to work all year round, even though someone in your position obviously shouldn't.

On top of that, you paint him as such the bad guy for not sitting down and talking to you when you want him to, when you never communicated it to him. You said you wanted to talk later. You could have asked him to not go to the bar, not have another drink when he got home, not get high, etc. Instead you just silently fumed at him for not knowing what you wanted of him without you having to tell him.

Now, if not being psychic is what's making him a jerk, yeah, most men, and also most women, will be jerks in your book.

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