I'm (26f) 28 weeks pregnant and just introduced my flatmates (19f, 26f) to my older sister (34f). It was a shit show. Am I being hormonal or is my horror justified?

You need to see if there's an /r/legaladvice in your country (if you're in America, that's it) and ask about the laws about having kids and drugs in the same house. Because I think you need to move.

If a mandatory reporter came into a house with a baby and someone said "I'll be out in a minute, just have to finish shooting up this heroin." and they found evidence that people may be smoking pot in the house- they would legally be required to call CPS and the police and report that your baby is unsafe.

And it sounds like your friends actually use drugs, too, so if police show up at your door looking for drugs- they'd find them. There's a very real possibility a CPS worker would walk in and smell pot. So this wouldn't just smooth over as "oh it was a joke we don't use drugs".

The marijuana is the one you really need to ask a lawyer about because it's a grey area. Even in places where pot is legalized, CPS has taken children out of homes that had pot use and there've been some real legal battles over this. So it may be safe, but you want to make sure. Any harder drugs? If that's found in your home, your child will be put in foster care.

A "mandatory reporter" is someone like a teacher, camp counselor, therapist, volunteer at a youth center, doctor, social worker. In some jurisdictions, every adult is considered a mandatory reporter.

Your friends are endangering your ability to be in your child's life because they think it's funny.

I strongly suspect your sister is going home to decompress and figure out what the hell to do because she knows her baby nibling can't be in that home, and she doesn't know how to talk to you, and she may be afraid you're on drugs and the baby is in danger. I would expect an intervention and heart to heart coming up.

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