Im [30m] in Paris with girlfriend [22f] and i think she is seeing other men.

I do trust her. Its so easy for someone to look at this and say you dont fucking trust her.

I knew she was seeing other guys during fwb and i was okay with it it was part of the deal it didnt bother me, i just didnt want to know the other guys exsisted and hear about them, sadly i did fibd out a few times and be accident she sent a text to me that was ment for another guy she had bite marks one day but that was in the early days, i didnt linger on it. I never snopped on her. Never have a acted or treated her like i mistrust.

I could have unlocked her phone hundreds of times in the past 4 weeks and never felt the need or wanted to.

I would not have started the realtionship if i felt those other guys were still part of the picture. I trusted her they werent. I trusted her we would move on together as a couple.

And its because i trusted her i was able to start the relationship.

I know i should have unlocked her phone this morning i feel like a complete dickhead for doing it But i ONLY did it because i accidentally found the multiple chats on her lock screen. 2 from work and family and two i didnt know.

I knew people would nust start saying well you unlocked her phone and you dont trust her. Please trust me. I am not like that. I unlocked her phone once in 3 years and it was because i knew something wasnt right. Last night i thought i was in love with my gf in paris and this morning hell has opened.

I like her i want to continue and im scared. I dont need the you dont trust her thing.

Im desperately hoping this relationship isnt over and someone will tell me it could easy be innocent.

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