I'm 37, gay and I've never dated. I'm going to SF this sept and I need advice on finding a husband.

I'm 37, gay, asian, darker skinned, no stds,effeminate and I've never dated. Any tips on how I should find a husband? I'm looking for specific tips or anecdotes. I know about which gay clubs to google and I know about the usual dating apps like grinder, scruff, okcupid, match, tinder, etc. Please give me advice about your experiences on these apps. I would like specific advice on what to do to find a husband. If you know anyone from SF or if you're from Sf, then u can PM me. Telling me about the gay culture of SF will be really helpful. Thanks. I went thru a lot of awful things. I have only had sex twice and I went thru std scares. I have been sent death threats. I am from a homophobic city. I have been violently attacked by homophobes. I have never dated since I'm asian and a lot of gay guys have been racist to me and called me racial slurs. I am hoping that my vacation in SF is permanent and I find a husband there. tl;dr I'm 37, gay and going to SF and I'd like advice on finding a husband.

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