Thank you for the sensitive reply! Gives me hope that there's good advice out there. I've seen two therapists on my own in the last three years for general anxiety disorder. Unfortunately, I only recently realize that I should have also been consulting a marriage counselor on my own. My 2nd appointment is this week. I also realized we made a mistake by going with an inexperienced marriage counselor the first time (she had a good pedigree).

Regarding the edit, I think that you're right but then I kept getting screamed at by the marriage counselor for being too honest. She'd ask me what I hope to accomplish. The new one seems to be the same way. Got one more appointment this week. Seems that honesty is inconvenient to marriage counseling. Is there anything unreasonable in my post that you think I shouldn't bring up? Should I do it in therapy or outside? Is my cadence sufficient or do I need to rethink how I present these topics? I'll ask the individual marriage counselor for advice too but limited to 50min.