I'm About to Give Up on AA. I'm Starting to Seriously Consider it not Only Flawed, but Dangerous.

I'm sure AA made things worse for me. I'm not religious and never went to church, I don't like talking to strangers, I couldn't comprehend the notion of "powerlessness" and don't agree that alcoholism is a 'disease' like cancer, the idea of a higher power that could be anything up to and including a coffee cup or the tree in the yard, and the repetition... repetition... repetition.

I am steadfast that AA is a religion, it's not a cult, but it is an extension of the Christian religion based on Christian ideals and even scripture and it was not the kind of life I wanted to lead - to replace my nights passed out on the couch from booze to nights spent drinking bad coffee and talking to strangers about how their higher power, whether it is the tree in the yard or Jesus himself which many members told me they saw regularly with their waking eyes, kept them off the sauce for just that one day.

AA is a never ending grind which has no conclusion and over which you have no control. You will be told often to shut up, that you don't know what you're talking about ("pull the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth"), that even your 90 days of sobriety is good but you're still only a "dry drunk" because you haven't finished your 12 steps at least 3 times, that you need to put in more effort into going to more meetings or sponsoring meetings and people.

And then, this is the worse bit about AA, it's non-professional. You will be putting your life and your mental health into the hands of people who have no training, other than having maybe read the big book, and also people with whom you have no expectation of privacy. While one of their slogans is "what you see here, please let it stay here" you will find that the average AA group is a hive of back-biting, gossip, and worse tattle-tales who have no problem telling about your past drunken dirty-dealings to other members, or worse, spouses or even the police. But you are expected in the program to confide in another member and spill all your past misdeeds. If there is anything I would like to impart on any reading this who are considering AA it's this: do not ever, under any circumstances never, confess your past indiscretions or any past illegals acts you may have been involved in while you were drinking to another member of AA. NEVER. There is no doctor-patient confidentiality, priest-parishioner confidentiality, or any expectation of any confidentiality in AA.

With my rant out of the way - I would also like to tell you that there is no magic pill. Naltrexone is only effective if you take it, and you will often find there will be days you're feeling good and don't want to take it because you know it will ruin your buzz later.

Naltrexone is most effective as a supplement which you take in addition to additional therapy and support. And there are other methods available. Rational Recovery, SMART, Secular Sobriety, Alan Carr's Easy Way, also your doctor or psychiatrist. The one that helped me the most, actually, was telling everyone I know: "I'd been having problems with drinking, it was making my life worse, so I decided it wasn't for me and life has been a lot better since I stopped."

My point is, AA definitely isn't for everyone and there are a lot of other ways, the vast majority of people quit without AA. Good luck out there.

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