I'm addicted to Dota 2 and it makes me unhappy

I have a 4.1k friend (I'm 3.3k) and I could see him writing a comment like yours. We also play with much lower rated friends quite often, as low as 1.4k. He gives out advice a lot while we're playing and although I'm used to his mannerisms we all agree that he's a bit of a dick. It's gotten quite a lot worse recently after he went on a solo ranked spree and shot up from 3k to 4.1k.

He's completely forgotten what it's like to be a new Dota player and expects everyone to play perfectly or at the very least follow his every command ("advice") because he's so good at the game (at 4.1k lol).

For example, he recently started flaming our 1.4k and 1.8k supports for not controlling the runes after he lost mid (it happens, whatever). Initially he was just "advising" then to help control the runes but 4 minutes later it turned it "You guys suck at Dota we needed rune control this game is lost gg." Was he right? Yeah. Did he have to be a dick about it and make our new Dota players feel bad? We ended up winning that match.

I've read about how the 4k bracket is the worst for dealing with these kinds of people but I still wasn't expecting it to happen to one my own friends who was so chill when he was a 3k player.


Anyway my "advice" to you would be to not offer your advice so freely. As in real life, people generally don't want your advice unless they ask for it. Wait for them to ask "Why did we lose that match?" or "What item should I build next?" before telling them your opinion.

If the enemy has 3 Shadow Blades and you lose a teamfight don't say "Why do you not have detection? How long have you been playing this game for?" Instead say, "Could you get some sentries? They've wasted 9k gold on Shadow Blades that will make the game really easy." And if they still don't do it take responsibility for it yourself, because we all struggled to deal with Riki once.

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