Thank you for answering. I'm afraid I already expressed my discomfort in so many words, I guess I just wasn't assertive enough on those points. At the time I kept convincing myself it's not a big deal because there wasn't any one thing that was way over the line, it's death by a thousand cuts. I also think if I become very assertive about boundaries next time, the situation would blow up in my face. For example, she said more than once something to the effect of "oh you like my shoes!" because she was wearing flashy high heels and she was waiting to see if my eye would look. I feel like I have to watch every little thing I do right down to my eyeballs. If I say something strong to her I feel like it will get flipped around on me even though I've done nothing wrong. Yeah typing this all out makes me feel like I'm describing PTSD over some very minor stuff but from my side it sucks.