So about the just being friends thing: I feel so weird about asking her to hang out (even though I asked her once already). It feels like I'm asking her on a date. If she knows I'm bi, is she going to think I'm asking her on a date? Or is that dumb to think because I am married? I ask my straight women friends to hang out all the time and it never feels weird. THIS JUST FEELS DIFFERENT.

Ugh.

A bunch of people have mention the app thing so I'm just going to paste what I typed before in the interest of saving my fingers:

1) I made a Her profile (husband helped) but it felt really intense to all of a sudden label myself as bisexual looking for a hookup. Also, I was only on it for an hour, but I didn't see anyone right off the bat that I was attracted to. Overall it felt weird so I deleted everything.

2) To a small corner of the internet, I am very recognizable. IF someone from that small corner happened to see my name and photos, it could create a mini-viral thing that would live forever on Twitter or Reddit or somewhere. This is a SMALL possibility BUT I don't want that kind of attention while I'm figuring out/exploring my sexuality. I thought about putting a different name and age, so I could just say "oh my photos were stolen, weird!" if anyone did recognize me, but then I'd be lying to potential hookup partners, and that doesn't feel right either.

I think a random hookup IS the way to go for me at this point... but I'd have to find someone in person, at a bar or similar place. That's a whole other thing. I'd have to go by myself because no one from my real life knows about this (except my husband, and he's probably the last person I'd want to bring, lol). So I guess... any advice for picking up women in bars?!