I completely relate to this and have been through this before. You have a severe insecurity issue. You need to make sure you don’t take this out on him, because in my experience needing validation all the time is really unhealthy. If he cares about you he will provide it, and I’ve been in relationships before where the other person is willing to provide the validation if you speak about how you’re feeling but eventually it just ends up grinding you both down.

It sounds like you need to deal with a wider issue which is having more confidence in yourself, and learning how to be less jealous. This isn’t gonna be easy but you need to learn that he loves you for who you are and if there’s something that has happened in your life to make you doubt this then this is your problem and not his.

Speak to him about it, explain, but ultimately you need to deal with this issue yourself. You need to learn to love yourself. Ru Paul isn’t lying when he says ‘if you can’t love yourself how the hell are you gonna love somebody else’. This is the only fix to this issue. Sorry that it’s not an easy one x