Yeah it's almost as if being put down by another person is a sign that someone is a troubled individual that feels the need to verbally assault someone else instead of being civil.

Ideally, people shouldn't be calling each other names, because that's immature at best and counterproductive at worst. And, you're not in the right for suggesting that people that get hurt by these things are in the wrong.

Instead of saying "just don't get offended", like what rightoids say when they're told they can't drop the hard-R on r/blackpeopletwitter, you should be asking yoruself, "why would I feel the desire to say a word like that? Maybe I shouldn't be putting people down."