Thanks for responding :)

I totally agree that it's the brides decisions, she tends to go through phases like this with all of her disposable friends. She latches on to them as they're suddenly the best thing since sliced bread.

I might at some point try to discuss it with her. It's just HOW to do it, because I have a feeling she's going to ask her soon. I know she asked if we'd be mad, but it was said in that way that you really have no choice in disagreeing. It wasn't a sit-down "Please tell me if you are okay with this decision." It was more of the classic "This is what's happening, and I'm pretending to ask you if you mind just so I look like a good person." I'll give it a couple days and arrange to see her, and try to bring it up then.

I would never ask her to change her decision, not at all. But I do feel that she does need to know that she's upset myself and Hana. (Who has since contacted me asking if I thought her choice was strange. Hana thought it'd be me, I thought it'd be Hana.)

I've also thought about letting it go, and honestly, that might be my final decision. I'm generally a 'no fuss' type of person, so when something upsets me, I (and others) know that it is a legit problem.

As I mentioned, we live very close to each other, and she calls on me to go do things with her, and discuss wedding things with her. Which I have no problem in doing, but now whenever she'll ask me to do anything wedding related with her, I just want to turn around and say "You should be doing that with Jo, since she's your MOH." I KNOW that it sounds bratty and immature to state the obvious to her, I know that. But I just feel like she needs a wake up call about her decision.

But thank-you for your response, I appreciate it! I'll try and have a calm conversation with her about it before she asks Jo so she can't have the comeback of "You should've said something beforehand!!" Even if she pulls it from Jo and offers it to me, I'll say no on the principle that she didn't think of myself OR Hana first and I know it'll just a be pity thing. But given her track record and attitude, I feel like she needs to be told that we're upset about this.