Trolls, I would love some advice. I've kind of been distancing myself from my old boss/friend. She'd become emotionally demanding, dismissive of my feelings, and flaked out on me constantly. I had given her a pass on some of her behavior because her mom was in the hospital and she was under a lot of stress at work, but I'm trying to be more confident and nicer to myself and part of that is not putting myself in situations where I know there's a high likelihood I'm going to get hurt or disappointed. So instead of being the one to initiate contact, or attempting to schedule things to do, I'm letting her be the one to handle it. If she says we're going out, I assume we're not going out until she says she's on her way. It's actually been incredibly healthy for me, and has been working out pretty well. Which is why this really petty feeling thing is extra sucky and I need some help navigating the waters.
Deadpool is coming out on the 12th, and I know he's probably not some people's cup of tea, but I love Deadpool. I've loved him from the time I was 16, and sneak read my first comic book I found in a gas station bathroom. I am SO excited for this movie, and the fact that it's reportedly so true to his character. I know it's going to be raunchy, vulgar, violent and crude, and I'm so ready for it. My friend knew how excited I was, and offered to buy us tickets to go this weekend. But she wants to bring her daughter.
I love the kid, I do, but she comes almost every time we do anything, and sometimes it kind of sucks. We went to see Trainwreck, and Spy, which, hey, I wouldn't bring my 15 year old daughter to see either of those movies, no matter how hard she asked, but she's not my kid. She was so uncomfortable, and made comments the entire time about how "inappropriate" it was. Then made more comments in the car, and made me feel guilty for enjoying the movie. These movies are going to look Disney-fied compared to Deadpool, which she is super excited about seeing because she knows I love it so much. I did mention its themes off handedly to her mom, but she's of the opinion if her kid thinks she can handle it, she'll give her the opportunity.
Trolls, I know this sounds selfish and horrible and petty, but if this girl comes, I don't want to go. This is a character I really resonate with, who has had a large part in shaping who I am as an adult. (His full story is really nuanced and complicated, it's not all poop jokes and chimichangas, I swear) It's how many people felt about the new Star Wars movie, I've waited years for this, since the rumors of a possible movie before the test footage leak. I don't want to deal with being concerned for how she's feeling, I don't want to deal with her comments, or having anyone else dampen my experience.
Before you say "[GrownUpLady], you're a giant baby, ball up and go by yourself", I totally would, but they would find out and be extremely upset. I can't fake a first movie experience, I've tried. Is there a nice non hurtful way to handle this?