I'm a guy, and I was raped. I can't keep it to myself anymore.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Sometimes not being believed after opening up can be just as hard or even more difficult to handle than what happened.

My step grandfather tried to molest me when I was really young. I didn't say anything until 15 or so years later. My mother tried to play it off like I didn't understand what he was doing and misinterpreted it.

After that, one day I ran into some older boys while wandering with my sister in the woods. They threatened us and pressured us to take off our clothes. My sister told me to do it with the rationale that I was young and would forget about it. Well, I didn't. When I told my mom later on, she blamed me for going too close to where they hung out.

Then when I was around 19-years-old, my boyfriend that I was living with emotionally and physically abused me. It went on for around 5 years. I tried reaching out to his mother in hopes of getting some advice. I chose to talk to her as anyone else would have called the police on him. She told me she didn't believe me because he only admitted to hitting me once.

After five years he stopped the abuse, but I could never feel comfortable around his mother after she claimed I was lying. At this point I'm married to my then boyfriend and his immediate family has been turned against me. It makes me feel like a monster.

Please know you aren't alone in this. While some people refuse to acknowledge your situation and the pain it has caused you, others like your girlfriend will believe you and be there to comfort you. I really appreciate you coming out in the open about this. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who has been gaslighted.

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