I'm having difficulty recognizing the validity of my girlfriend's frustrations.

I may be buried for this but I hope you'll hear me out, as I have struggled with similar in the past, and though the answer isn't mediation related, nor is your question, really.

Despite the rampant misogyny in the red pill sub, there is a lot of wisdom to be gained from some of the underlying theory, and it seems likely as a meditater you will be In a safe position to separate the wheat from the chaff.

As men we, typically, think much more linearly and literally. When I stopped interpreting and trying to parse complaints as they were expressed on the surface and instead as expressions of emotion looking for validation, my relationships with women improved dramatically. The women I have dated seem much happier, and certainly I'm much more so.

You can not force, or really even ask someone to change, but you can witness them with a more valid interpretation.

Specifically I would recommend you do not view complaints as things that need to be validated as they are semantically expressed. For example, if gf says so-and-so is xyz, don't feel the need to either agree or make an argument against xyz. Instead, witness it as something you don't understand and leave it as such. Of course, be authentic if you strongly disagree.. But if it's "pointless" complaining from your perspective, leave it as such.

You will likely find, over time, some underlying current to what you considered "pointless" that is not logically extractable from the words being used.

It is unfortunately a very anti-pc notion I'm expressing here, but I find it nonetheless true. Men and women are very very different, and a large amount of relationship strife comes from each other not understanding that, and people pretending that ancient biological imperatives do not exist.

If there is a better source for wisdom on contemporary dynamics between men and women than the red pill sub and associated literature, I don't know about it. The sub itself is a disgusting place that attracts a troubling amount of misogyny and ignorance, but, in my opinion also contains extremely useful wisdom that it sounds like you would benefit from.

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