Im having trouble accepting it.

i'm new to this and still trying to come to terms with it myself so don't put all your trust in what i'll say hahaha

what i'd suggest is getting over the whole 'normal' thing.. nothing is 'normal' in this society for things like bisexuality to be considered 'abnormal'.. we wear clothes..is that normal? we drive cars.. is that normal? the list goes on and on and animals do none of these things so don't look to nature for your answers. rcrow2009 has already mentioned cases of homosexuality in nature but you shouldn't really need these to feel comfortable with yourself.

humans are also one of the few species (i think dolphins are another one) which have sex just because it feels good and not for reproduction.. so i wouldn't really put too much weight on the whole 'we're wired for reproduction' thing either..otherwise we wouldn't have condoms etc..

if it makes you feel good and it doesn't harm other people then there's no reason you shouldn't try it out..that's the only way you'll find out what you really want..just go on a date and see how it makes you feel..you've probably internalised a lot of homophobia too (i can see this in myself) so do it with someone you trust and is willing to give you the space you need to figure things out.. i'm only saying this because, you may not feel as exited as you expect, but maybe you're just not allowing yourself to get excited cause it's scary..so give it time and space before you feel like you've come to a conclusion..and you're always allowed to change your mind too..

this is gonna be a journey and don't feel like you owe anyone any concrete answers..give yourself some much needed experiences and they'll help you figure out the rest..be open minded and try to figure out what you personally really want by disregarding anything you feel like you should comply to..we all experience things differently and just because other people don't feel the same, doesn't mean your feelings are wrong. just have fun. it's your life and no-one should be enforcing any 'rules' (i.e. normative relationships) on it..not even yourself

it's scary, i know..but it seems like you have friends that are willing to stand next to you no matter what..so lean on them..that's why they're there..

i wish you luck and hope you won't be too hard on yourself..it's okay to be confused..that's the first step in my opinion (and experience so far)

(sorry for the long text haha)

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