To start off, It feels like there's been a huge upswing in the amount of bullying within the community.
Bullying is not good, that's true.
> Everywhere I look I see pre-teens, teens, and even grown ass adults deciding they're some brand new sexuality, or previously unheard of gender that's only unique to them and people are afraid to call them out on it in fear of being labeled a bigot.
Calling people out for figuring out their sexual/gender identity and them maybe even having fun with that is bullying in my eyes, or something close to it. Even if you view people different from yourself unfavourably, don't understand them, and maybe don't even take them seriously, why just not tolerate them and leave them alone doing their thing at least? It's not like there's a shortage of people who are more conservative, or who have more "traditional" identities; engage with those folks instead. Your point sounds a lot like those arguments of people trying to invalidate the experiences of trans people nowadays, and I'm sure the same arguments were used against gay people even just 25 years ago. You're just applying them to a different, less accepted niche within the spectrum.
Every kid figuring themselves out who might post embarrassing things on the internet contributes less to any real or perceived bullying problem than people who feel the need to "call them out" for just trying to be themselves, at least in my opinion.
> It's damaging to our community and helps hateful ideas like "it's just a phase" spread more easily. It feels invalidating to our struggle and makes me feel kind of embarrassed to say I'm LGBT+.
I'm of the opinion that trying to appeal to straight sensibilities by forcing people to be "more normal" does not work for acceptance. Every concession you make leads to another demand; it's a slippery slope. "Just be more normal, and people will accept you"...
Don't try to kid us that if you're discreet
You're perfectly safe as you walk down the street
You don't have to mince or make bitchy remarks
To get beaten unconscious and left in the dark
I'm not sure if you really made your post in good faith, or if you're genuinely feeling down or rejected by other GSRM people. I hope you understand my thoughts, even if you disagree. In any case, I hope you'll find people with whom you'll feel safe, and maybe reconsider some of your views towards people you don't understand.