I'm just too bad socially.

I know it's hard. I don't have many friends these days because my default personality sucks. It takes a lot of energy for me to have a social personality, but I can do it; or at least I could in the past.

Today I have like 1 friend, but a few years ago I had closer to 40 friends. It just took too much effort to maintain. But I've NEVER been the popular social type until I forced myself to fake it till I made it.

Read the book "The Charisma Myth". Alright, so if you have a crappy personality don't think that you're screwed and that it's all over. You can learn to improve your personality. What I recommend you do is pay attention to who you think is popular or sociable. Just observe them.

If that's too uncomfortable then watch some Netflix movies, but observe the alpha male (or female) characters. I do this all the time but it's hard to not fall back into being absorbed by the story. You should be able to easily pick out who is the popular strong male and who is not. But ask yourself why? What are they doing? It's a mixture of body language and confidence.

Believe it or not having a charismatic and popular personality is extremely easy to imitate if you know the basics. The main thing you do is listen while begin total engaged in what the person is saying. Smile. Laugh when they make a joke and so on. You may have to force your eyebrows, mouth, and eyes to move - rather than being a blank robot; it's like method acting. Mirror the person's body language. Learn all you can about body language.

It's a lot like acting. If an actor can appear to be sociable and popular then you can so long as you understand the method or science of it. And there is a definite method and science of being sociable and charismatic. The only thing is that you won't be being genuine and it takes effort to do. Just my 2 cents.

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