I'm so lost...

Hello . Probably unpopular opinion but I went thru something similar.

I decided to leave my then 7 month old son with my parents while I get my shit together. His visa was running out too. (So he really had to leave the country in order not to risk overstaying)

I was homeless for three months , then I moved to a sharehouse. Besides money , I had to worry about other things like visa to remain in the country and then sponsor his visa once I had mine. Also my job options were limited because I was an immigrant under a certain visa category.

I needed a year and a half to get this done. No one thought I could pull it off. Even my friends kept saying to me "Just go home to your son!" They didn't understand that there was no reset button for citizens of the third world. I had to think long term. I missed my son terribly but if I let my emotions overwhelm me, I would have flown home and we would have lost all chances of building a better life in a safe country where children can actually play on the streets. It was long term thinking vs short term thinking. I stuck to my guns and decided what I needed to do.

I took him back to live with me before he turned 2. My son is now 5 and we're still here. We're in a much better place now.

My point is.. leave your child with your parents if you need to, for you to get back on your feet. Have a long term plan in mind and work towards this. It looks daunting but you can do it.

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