I went to a city uni too. Actually I live in Australia so a lot of people who go to uni live at home with their family and travel to uni each day (it's not very affordable to live in your own place where I am).

I had a similar experience. It was difficult to make friends in my undergraduate degree. I also found it difficult because I was one of the only girls in my course and I wasn't great at making friends with guys.

At first, I met a couple of girls in a different course - some were nice but some were nasty. I heard two girls in the group were ranking all our friends in terms of looks and there was this one girl with a birth mark on her face they put right at the bottom. I was disgusted and I didn't want to hang out with them more. But doing that meant I had no friends to sit with at uni.

After that day I spent all my time alone. I went to the library by myself, I would sit in the park and sleep on my own. I lived over 1.5 hours away from uni so it wasn't worth going home between breaks.

I was pretty lonely. I had a boyfriend at the time but he was going through an addiction problem and he was suicidal so I couldn't really talk to him about what I was going through. He also didn't like me being friends with guys so any guy that showed interest in being my friend I pushed away. In the end I tried my hardest to help him, I stayed with him a year because I was hoping he'd get help, but things got worse to the point of being on the verge of abusive so that relationship ended and I was completely alone again.

I played a lot of computer games, and spent a lot of time doing things on my own. I guess I coped by going for bushwalks or going to the beach. I spent a lot of time on my own at the beach, but whenever I wasn't there I wasn't happy. I played a sport and that was great but I am not one to easily connect with others so I had no lasting friendships from that.

I don't want to make this all dreary. I've finished my degree now and I have had some rough years. I'm not always happy but I do have moments where I am content. I just wanted to say that I felt for me at least going through those years helped me to find my place in the world. It's okay not to have friends, even if it is lonely. The right people aren't always around when we need them.

In terms of what to do in life... I'm still figuring that out myself. I feel as though I will never really know, and I've kind of realised that if you can somehow find ways to live for the moment it makes things a little more bearable.